Living With Borderline Personality Disorder


Are you always finding yourself in abusive relationship? Do you always feel inferior to others? Do you sometimes feel like hurting or killing yourself? If your answer to one of these questions is yes then you might be living with borderline personality disorder.


What is Borderline Personality Disorder?

Borderline Personality Disorder is a psychological problem that causes intense mood swings, impulsive behavior and severe problems with self-worth. It can lead to troubled relationships in every area of a person’s life.

Having Borderline Personality disorder does not mean you are mad or deranged, many people are living with this disorder and still go on with their daily living, have a career, get married etc. so it goes on undiagnosed until it becomes worse.

Most of the time, signs of the disorder first appear in childhood but problems often don’t start until early adulthood.


What Causes Borderline Personality Disorder?

Experts cannot exactly pinpoint what causes borderline personality disorder. Some conclude that Problems with chemicals in the brain that help control moods may play a role. Borderline Personality Disorder can also be inherited.

Often people who get it faced some kind of childhood trauma such as abuse, neglect, or the death of a parent. There is higher risk when people who had childhood trauma also have problems coping with anxiety or stress.

What Are The Symptoms Of Borderline Personality Disorder?

Everyone has problems with emotions or behaviors sometimes but if you have Borderline Personality Disorder, the problems are severe, repeat over a long time, and disrupt your life.

The most common symptoms are listed below:

  • Intense emotions and mood swings,
  • Harmful, impulsive behaviors:

These may include things like substance abuse, binge eating, out-of-control spending, risky sexual behavior and reckless driving, relationship problems.

You may see others as either “good” or “bad” and may shift from one view to the other suddenly for minor reasons. This can make relationships very difficult.

  • Low self-worth,
  • A frantic fear of being left alone (abandoned):

This fear may lead to frantic attempts to hold on to those around you or it may cause you to reject others before they can reject you.

  • Aggressive behavior,
  • Feeling empty inside,
  • Problems with anger: such as violent temper tantrums,
  • Hurting yourself, such as cutting or burning yourself,
  • Suicide attempts and suicidal thoughts,
  • Time when you feel paranoid or lose a sense of reality (psychosis).

If you discover that you exhibit any of these symptoms then you need help and need to get it fast before it gets out of hand and start destroying your work and family relationships.


How Borderline Personality Disorder Is Treated

Borderline Personality Disorder can be hard to treat. It’s common for symptoms to return. And many people with the disorder have troubled relationships with their Counselors and Doctors

But you can take steps to control the disorder. Long term treatment can reduce symptoms and harmful behaviors and help you better manage your emotions.


Treatments of Borderline Personality Disorder include:

  1. Counseling and therapy:

It is important to find a counselor you can build a stable relationship with. This can be hard, because your condition may cause you to see your counselor as caring one minute and cruel the next, especially when he or she asks you to try to change a behavior.


  1. Medicine

Such as anti-depressant, mood stabilizer and anti-psychotics.


  1. Healthy habit

Such as getting enough sleep, eating healthy foods, getting regular exercise and avoiding alcohol and drugs.

These habits can help reduce stress and anxiety.


As we can see, many people have borderline personality disorder but it usually goes undiagnosed and untreated because of ignorance or fear of being seen as crazy. There is no shame in getting help, you need it and should get it to manage this disorder.

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