What You Are Saying ‘Yes I Do’ To In Marriage
Wedding is sweet, even the thought of it gives you the feeling or ecstasy. When you meet the right man you just want to say ‘yes I do’, so on your wedding day, you are in so much hurry that you don’t even listen to what the wedding coordinator is saying. All your thought will be to get it over with as soon as possible, ‘isn’t it just the in sickness and in health, to love and to hold thing?’ hey! Just hurry up so that I can say yes I do. But the fact is you are saying yes I do to a lot more than that, so go through this list and be sure you are ready to ‘do’ it;
#YES I DO AGREE TO FOREGO GIRLS TIME OUT#
Yes babe, no more going out with your girlfriends anytime you feel like. You can’t just go clubbing, partying, or sightseeing with the girls without express permission from your spouse. You are a wife now and that role comes with lots of responsibilities. Sleep over is forbidden and God forbid that you should just go on vacation with the girls over the weekend like you always do to shop for exciting clothes. Don’t panic, it is not like being in prison with no fun, just that you can’t do those things like before if you want the union to stand; you will be too busy building your home anyways. You know that pity party you usually hold when one of the girls has just been dumped and is crying her eyes out; you get to drink with her and say dirty things about men to make her feel better, that’s out too! You have to be ready to leave the kind of life you are spending with the girls behind, you will even look odd in their midst, accept this before you say ‘yes I do’ and mentally say goodbye to that kind of life. I know you will feel sad, but you know it can’t last forever and if Mr. Right delivers all the sweet promises he made, you won’t even miss that life much.
#YES I DO AGREE TO MAKE MYSELF USEFUL IN THE KITCHEN#
You know it’s no fun cooking for one, and sometimes you are just too busy to cook, noodles, cornflakes, golden morn, oats etc makes your life easier as a single woman, well! You can’t just rely on those anymore. You are not responsible for only your mouth anymore, you have additional mouth to feed and believe me, he has a large appetite, so, to the kitchen girl! I know it’s not fair but that is one of the responsibilities that come with being a wife. The saying that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach is still true, so be ready not only to cook but to cook good food. Get prepared, do a crash course in catering, buy recipe books, take cooking lessons from experts, whatever you do to get the skill doesn’t matter, what really matters is the result; a palatable and fabulous meal. It will make his stomach happy and his heart sing, and I dare say he will Love you more. Going to eateries won’t solve the problem, it is a waste of money and I have good news for you; more mouths are on their way. Cheer up dear; it’s not the end of the world.
#YES I DO AGREE TO SATISFY ALL HIS SEXUAL DESIRES#
Well, you can’t expect him to believe you have headache every night. If you don’t give it to him when and how he wants it, he might be tempted to get it from outside. A known marriage counselor once said that ‘when any marriage is on the rock, the rock is under the bed’. He is going to be expecting lots of sex and he has a right to it, Even God recognizes this right, so, be ready to succumb, even if he want it every night. Come to think of it, what do you think ‘with my body I will honor you’ is all about? It can’t be on your terms or when you feel gracious enough to allow it, marriage is about letting go of yourself to become one with him and sex is part of the joining process. It is an open secret that men like sex, if you ask many men the type of woman they can stay married to, almost all of them will have one type of woman on top of their list ‘ a woman that will satisfy their sexual desires’. No type of excuse can get you out of doing it, it is the first topic in Marriage101, Learn how to be relevant in the ‘other room ‘. Not just sex, but good sex, the type that will make him never get tired of it, don’t worry, he will take the lead and show you how to please him.
#YES I DO AGREE TO MOVE INTO ANOTHER FAMILY#
Yes dear, not only will your name change to his family name, you get a brand new family too. You will have sisters, brothers, aunts, uncles, mother, father and other family members from your new family. It doesn’t matter if you are not living with them; you are into that family and will be expected to carry out duties in accordance with your role in the family. Many women get married with the mind that they will just be a wife, when the demands of the other roles they are to play set in; marital life becomes chaotic for them. Relate with your mother-in- law like your mother and treat other family members you incur as a result of marriage also like family and your marital life with be less stressful. Your blood relations still remain as such, as a female, you have accepted to carry another name now and that name belongs to another set of family, it is like being adopted. Your husband’s family won’t just disappear after marriage, so you have to learn how to relate with them. I know he is charming and has made many sweet promises to you, but know that he is not just offering you himself, his family is included the package too.
#YES I DO AGREE TO BE A HOME KEEPER#
I know you are neither his housekeeper nor his maid but the cleaning is on you from the moment you say ‘yes I do’. Congratulations! You have now become a wife but terms and conditions apply. If you are lucky and he is rich enough to get you a house- girl, good for you! If not, well, sweetheart, Love won’t wash the clothes and iron them, do the dishes, sweep the rooms and mop the kitchen and toilet, it’s your responsibility as a wife to do them. Your spouse might help you out once in a while but he might just be busy most times. There is no escaping those chores so plan for ways to get them done. Men hate the house looking dirty and unkempt, after a hard day at work, they expect to come back to a clean home and warm meal and add a woman who is happy to receive them to the list and you will be making their dreams come through. I am not trying to scare you with the description of the mountain of house work waiting for you, believe me, they are real and it’s your duty to make them disappear.
#YES, I DO AGREE TO BE FINANCIALLY RESPONSIBLE#
Yeah! Many women think they can increase their spending when they get married, they get to spend the man’s money with theirs and finally they can buy almost everything they longed for when they were still singles. Sorry to disappoint you girl, it’s not the way you think, actually you get to spend less. You can’t go on binges and crazy shopping. You can’t just spend your money and his money on anything that catch your fancy because he will be saving for long term goals like building a house, trust fund and college fund for your children and building his own business. As a responsible woman, your place is beside your husband, giving him all the supports he needs and even without asking be ready to help in all the ways you can, even financially. As a newly married, he might spoil you at first and allow you to shop all you want and even indulge you by allowing you to have all the toys you think women need to survive but if you don’t wake up and know when to become responsible, he might add you to his list of liabilities. You can learn how to become an asset to him by increasing his income and cutting excesses in his expenditures. A good wife is an asset to her husband because she is financially responsible while on the other hand, a bad wife only knows how to increase his expenditures and we all know the one that enjoys matrimonial life and last longer out of the two of them.
So, hello! Do you have an idea of those things you are going to be saying ‘yes I do’ to now? Married life can be sweet to those who have an idea of the challenges they are going to face and come prepared. Get weapons to tackle those challenges now, so that, on your wedding day, when you say yes I do, you are assured that you can actually do those things and doing them won’t be a problem. I wish you happy married life in advance,
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